edit: this is resolved
does anyone know how i can unfuck my gtk apps?
somehow libadwaita apps just look like stock gtk4 (but still wrong even then)
i just wanna change everything gtk back to the defaults (maybe same with qt too)
~/.config/gtk-4.0. If it's flatpak, try removing overrides that change config or theme folders
flatpak override --unset-env=GTK_THEME (--user), then look for it in /etc/environment and other common places, bash -xl could help trace it down maybe, otherwise a ripgrep search should find it (if it's set somewhere else)